I asked Paul if he wants to write this post, since it's about him, but he declined. He's been getting stronger and stronger. I would say he's as fully-formed a person as Kiara is, at this point. He's a great boy. He's been learning to bootblack recently, and shows some promise of skill. He's created his own Fetlife account and starting to make his own friendships. He's voiced his opinion separate from the rest of us, and is beginning to have a 'voice' - a way his writing sounds and feels - that is unique to him. He's devoted to Boss as his lover and father figure both. But he's also learning to flirt and interact with other men, too.
We have one particular friend that he is becoming pretty fast friends with. This is the young man who is teaching him to bootblack. He's encouraged Paul to express himself as a boy, and they've talked a lot about things as simple and exciting as wearing a packer, or at least boys' underwear. Luckily, Boss is fond of the young man as well, so it looks like that set of relationships will flow well as it grows. I'm very excited to see where it goes.
Paul has started to really investigate where he is as a sexual person, as well, more in a solo sense than as a partner. He's quite visual, and much more interested in watching porn than we girls are. He does feel a phantom penis very strongly, and can masturbate it nearly as well as if it was corporeal. We've also experimented with a few different ways to overlap something real - a dildo or a strapon or something - with his phantom penis. All with a measure of success. I'm looking forward to purchasing a Reeldoe or something similar to see how that works for him (and if it doesn't, Sam wants to try it). We just bought a jockstrap for him to wear, and he was pretty pleased with that.
He's also getting very adept at sliding ages from eight to eleven to fourteen. At eight, he's more likely to be interested in playing with Legos or with the dog, and treats Boss as much more of a father figure. At fourteen he's much more sure of himself, and Boss is someone to be flirted with. There seems to be a barrier of some sort to get to seventeen, or to get younger, to five or even two. And it takes a lot of energy and purpose to cross the line.
We have crossed the line sometimes, however, usually toward the younger age. He's willing to do so, but it does make him pretty uneasy. When he's younger, he doesn't have much control over it, and really has trouble aging back up again. But I remember he had a lot of trouble switching out when he first showed up, so maybe it will get easier with practice. When he's five or two, we've taken to calling him 'Baby Paul' - more like Baby Paul is an alter within Paul - I think each of his ages could qualify as alters in a subsystem, really. Baby Paul isn't very verbal, especially at two. He's very solemn, and sucks his thumb (but not the same way Kiara sucks it, I've noticed). He can't really feel below my knees - after all, he has short little-boy legs. And he waits quietly for an ice cream when everything is finished.
When he's out, or has just been out, we also have visual memories that are very specific. We can see a large four-poster bed with shelves on the headboard and a light, of a very dark color wood. The matching dresser sits where my dresser does - a pretty massive thing. My bookshelves don't fit in this visual - there are no books in Baby Paul's world. The carpet is a dark brown, matted in places with what looks to me like animal stains. There are shoe boxes under the bed. Now, none of these things are true in my/our real world. I don't know where the memories are from. But they are very strong.
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