Status Update [Me]

The article about my class is online! We had a reporter come to the Kink 101 class that I taught, and here is the article that she wrote for Out & About. It wasn't great, but it's something, and it was positive about Kink, even if awfully light-hearted. It's not in the January print edition, so I'm guessing it'll be in February's.

We're still working on coming up with a name for Silent One - the kids stand outside the bars on the door to its room and try calling it. But when it does come to the door, we can't tell if it's responding to the kids, or to the name. The favorites are currently Umber, Tomak, Ilkin, Nox, Ferine, Fuzzy, or Tornit.

Some major happenings have occured in our friendship/sex life, but nothing that really impacts our multiplicity, so I think I want to keep it to myself and enjoy snuggling up to the memory. We've been really stable lately, for us, so I haven't felt too motivated to write.

The only major movement we've been having is with Paul. Back in mid-October, he got 'reset' somehow. He came out with a major loss of memories - and a loss of emotional connection to Boss to go with that. They've been working to rebuild their relationship since. Mostly Boss has worked on wooing him back. He's pushed more on regaining a friendship and a physical relationship than a romantic relationship, because Paul seemed to shy away from anything that might be interpreted as emotional.

But just before Christmas, that backfired in a huge way. Paul completely freaked out one night, pulling away and crying and hitting out at Boss. Then he wouldn't come out at all for several days because he was afraid of the consequences of what happened.

Since then, there have been a lot of conversations between me and Boss, and Gracelyn and Boss, and Gracelyn and Paul. Finally, Boss and Paul had a long discussion about their relationship, and the fact that Paul has the right to call things off (safeword), but he has to actually say it, or Boss can't read his mind and know things are going too far.

That conversation really seems to release a lot of the tension, and Paul's been out on pretty much a daily basis. He's really growing as a personality a lot. Some friends gave us a couple of compression shirts and boots, and we bought him a pair of pants and some underwear of his own. With his own wardrobe, he's got more confidence in his separation from the rest of the system. Our friends are recognizing him quickly, and that boosts his self-confidence, too. Last year, he created his own Fetlife account, and he's been getting more and more active there. He's even started exploring what kinds of activities he might be interested in, kink-wise, so that he can interact more. And with the GPS installed in the truck now, he's happy to do more of the driving.

I'm really enjoying seeing the boy out so much, defining himself. I know it pleases Boss a lot, too.